New Year’s Resolutions for Caregivers. It can especially difficult for people caring for a loved one to even entertain the thought of making some resolutions, let alone keep them. If there is a # 1 New Year’s resolution for caregivers, it might be, “To be a better caregiver.” Caregiving is an all-consuming, overwhelming responsibility and if you really want to do a better job than you’re probably already doing, we suggest that, instead, you make a resolution to take better care of yourself.
If you think you don’t have the time or the energy to take care of you, too, we’ve compiled a list of helpful tips — little things that can make a big difference.
New Year’s Resolutions for Caregivers: Self-care plan
Kate Fallon, with Ageless Journeys, suggests that you create an actionable self-care plan. Take a few minutes to think about what you can do and put it down on paper. Set specific, measurable goals. “This may include things like actually scheduling and prioritizing time for something you enjoy right at home, like reading, drawing, or listening to music or investing in your health by having an occasional massage, a pedicure or a lunch with friends,” says Kate. “At its most simple, self-care means preventive health care (dental cleanings, annual screenings), taking regular walks, and eating a balanced diet with lots of greens and grains.”
Deborah McLean, whose website Maine Senior Guide is a resource for seniors and their families, offers up her own New Year’s tradition/superstition. “I make a list of all the things I want to do in 2015 and do them on New Year’s Day, thus ensuring I will do them all year. (Sometimes it is only a token action). The point is I want to recognize my priorities and commit for the duration. I actually post the list on my office wall.”
We’ve got several things you could probably do on New Year’s Day to get you started on the road to taking care of yourself. They’re all about creating a mood.
New Year’s Resolutions for Caregivers: Soothing environment
Ever notice how something simple can change your mood in a heartbeat? Try these simple mood-changing suggestions:
- Change the lighting so that it’s softer and more soothing.
- Fill some vases with flowers.
- Play your favorite music.
- Move a comfortable chair into the sunlight.
- Take five minutes alone to calm down and deep breathe.
- Schedule appointments throughout the day as reminders to take care of yourself.
- If someone offers to help you — with housekeeping, for instance — say yes and let go of thinking it needs to be done “your way”.
- If you’re caring for someone with dementia, meet the person where he or she is at that moment. You’ll both probably feel a lot less stressedif your expectations are in line with his/her capabilities.
Polly Bradley is director of adult day services at the Southern Maine Agency on Aging (SMAA), which offers a caregiver program all year round — with special attention during the new year. She has these suggestions:
- Schedule a weekly phone check-in with a SMAA social worker.
- Stop by a SMAA adult day center and talk with a social worker.
- Join a support group (search for groups in your area at SMAA or the Alzheimer’s Association)
- Connect with the SMAA buddy system — caregivers reach out to other caregivers.
- Call SMAA at 1.800.427.7411 to speak with a family caregiver specialist.
If you’re not in southern Maine, contact your local agency on aging to see what they offer for services.
How are you feeling?
If you are going to resolve to take better care of yourself, Kate Fallon says first, you need to honor yourself and how you’re feeling — really feeling — about your role. “Caregiving often leads to feelings of ambivalence — strong, conflicting feelings that leave people uncomfortable,” she says. “Perhaps caregivers can focus on being more accepting of how they feel and finding appropriate ways to honor and express these feelings. This may include journaling, online caregiver message boards, support groups, counseling or some kind of creative expression. We Mainers can be stoic about keeping our feelings to ourselves, but sometimes keeping it all inside can lead to physical illness, fatigue or depression.”
As we get ready to ring in the New Year, we invite all caregivers to make 2015 about taking good care of their physical, emotional and spiritual selves. This blog was originally written for Advantage Home Care‘s posting. If you realize that you could use an extra hand, Advantage Home Care offers a wide range of services. Browse their website, send an email or give then a call at 207.699.2570 or toll free at 1.888.846.1410 for more information.
Happy New Year!
The Aging in Place blog is written by Diane Atwood, who also writes the blog Catching Health with Diane Atwood.